Day 6. What Not To Say Have you had something terrible said to you in the wake of your loss, write it on a piece of paper – photograph it – vent it.
Since we first knew the pregnancy was in difficulty I have heard all manner of awful things said to myself and other women (and men) in our position. Some things have made me upset and some have shocked me. It was difficult to choose one thing to write down, so here are few others as well - "Ah well, at least you weren't further along" - "It wasn't planned anyway though was it" - "It would probably have been deformed" - You are too old for babies" - "You are too young for babies" - "You can always try again" - "At least you have other children" - "It's God's way of weeding out the weak" - "It wasn't really a baby yet".
NONE OF THESE THINGS WILL TAKE THE PAIN OF LOSING A BABY AWAY - And neither will -
Valerie
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